Something you can't feel until it happens to you. Everything you hear about it growing up for the most part is true, time flies by, you love your children more than anything imaginable, etc... The only thing I disagree with are the negatives people talk about parenting. Specifically, how hard it is, how much of an inconvenience they are, etc... It's been 2 1/2 years for me and I've already forgotten what its like to be childless and carefree, and honestly like it better now.
Yeah, I was all, "I have a life and I have a kid" a few months after mine was born, but a couple years later, the two are integrated, ie, how could my child inconvenience me when I am working every day just to be able to come home to him (and my wife)? He's a key reason as to why I spend my time the way I do, as opposed to just something to spend some time with, if that makes any sense. Every now and then I miss being able to play video games as much, but I definitely like life better this way. I am a little scared of the teenage years, though, but hey, we'll be in our 40's and able to handle anything by then, right?
Haha, I guess so. I try not to think to the future in that respect so much. Day by day for me, going with the flow. Me and my wife are expecting our 2nd due out May 2012, and my mind may change with having to deal with 2 instead of 1, based on what everyone "says". I guess you can't deny missing the ability to pick up and go do whatever you want, whenever you want. I agree though, I think the adolescent and teenage years are going to be a lot harder than the newborn/toddler years, where basically you clothe, feed, and give your baby attention. The whole disciplinary phase is gonna be tougher, which is starting right about now. I for one, know I am doing things a bit different than my parents did with me and my brothers.
Hey Nic, do you have a facebook account? If so, if you don't mind I would like to be your "friend", as I seem to have a bit in common with you, and for some reason am more fascinated with communicating with people I've never met on these social media outlets, as the people I already know tend to be a bit more boring and I would rather deal with face to face. If not, no big deal. I'm not a stalker or anything creepy like that, as much as this whole paragraph portrays me as being. Or maybe I am in denial?
Congrats on # 2! Aw, Bucky, I do not have a Facebook for reasons detailed in these two posts http://thenicsperiment.blogspot.com/2010/12/ive-finally-done-it.html and http://thenicsperiment.blogspot.com/2010/12/final-overdramatic-facebook-note.html but please don't read them because Tolstoy actually complained to the blogger.com offices that I was misappropriating too much space. Feel free to communicate with me on here all you want, even if it is not post related. The Internet makes stalkers of the best of us, so no worries.
Haha, ya meanwhile I found that post about facebook before reading this post. Ya, gotcha, please don't think of me of less of a person because I am contributing member to the downfall of productive society.
Ya, #2 on its way, we find out the sex in a few more weeks. We are both too impatient to let it be a surprise and too practical to not get stuff prepared for in advance, although it would be pretty exciting waiting until birth to find out the sex. How old is your boy? Sounds pretty close to the same age as my daughter. Potty training is about to happen, even though most our friends babys of the same age are already potty trained. Have you noticed since being a parent the parent to parent competition, like "my dog is better than your dog". I know its human nature and it makes me laugh honestly as I am trying to just stay focused on my child and not what the Jones's child has accomplished. Another major downfall and annoyance of Facebook is all the damn baby posts. If anything needs to remain private, its the innocent little babies that have no say in the matter.
All my family (excluding my wife) and friends are on it, and I don't think less of anyone for using it. It is just not for me. I'm with you on not wanting to wait to find out the sex of your baby. That was never even a question for us. We definitely weren't going to paint the baby bedroom yellow! I don't see how people can wait. My boy will be two in a couple of weeks, and is no where close to being potty trained. I don't even want to think about it! I feel you on the competition thing. It's ridiculous. The girl across the street ran up to us with her three-year old the other day, asked how old our son was, then announced that her daughter attended the International School and could speak three languages, then walked away. Why do I care? I'm not going around bragging that my kid knows the distinction between 40 species of sharks, so why do I have to be subjected to it? It's all Facebook's fault! Poor babies!
Haha, ya its mostly my wife's friends and seems to be more of a female dominated role than the father role with people I know. One of my 'wifes' friends is relentless in how advanced her 2 1/2 year old is, yet when we are around them we cant see it at all (hence we hardly hang out with them anymore). They coddle their kids and make extreme effort to make sure everyone know exactly how smart their toddlers are. "Oh shes at a 5 year old's level already, the doctor even said". She says "We are looking for schools to put her in but everywhere that will accept her only has other 2.5 year olds that will just bring her down." Meanwhile her social skills are lacking due to them coddling her and not just putting her in day care to get what daycare at that age is meant for besides allowing the parents to work (she lives with her parents still), which is social interaction skills.
I held out until earlier this year to even sign up for Facebook after I caught myself snooping on my wife's FB constantly and now I am on it everyday that I have access to the internet. (which is everyday, except when I go camping out in the woods)I still have many friends that aren't on facebook and now I kind of wish I was one of them. Oh well, as long as I'm happy and my kids are healthy I'll keep plugging along.
Other than that, I'm a pretty negative person when it comes to society as a whole, believe it or not. Not that that is a good thing, but the truth is ugly and I'm not scared to admit my version of the truth which I think is more accurate than the average Joe's version of the truth.
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Hey Nic, do you have a facebook account? If so, if you don't mind I would like to be your "friend", as I seem to have a bit in common with you, and for some reason am more fascinated with communicating with people I've never met on these social media outlets, as the people I already know tend to be a bit more boring and I would rather deal with face to face. If not, no big deal. I'm not a stalker or anything creepy like that, as much as this whole paragraph portrays me as being. Or maybe I am in denial?
Aw, Bucky, I do not have a Facebook for reasons detailed in these two posts
http://thenicsperiment.blogspot.com/2010/12/ive-finally-done-it.html
and
http://thenicsperiment.blogspot.com/2010/12/final-overdramatic-facebook-note.html
but please don't read them because Tolstoy actually complained to the blogger.com offices that I was misappropriating too much space.
Feel free to communicate with me on here all you want, even if it is not post related. The Internet makes stalkers of the best of us, so no worries.
Ya, #2 on its way, we find out the sex in a few more weeks. We are both too impatient to let it be a surprise and too practical to not get stuff prepared for in advance, although it would be pretty exciting waiting until birth to find out the sex. How old is your boy? Sounds pretty close to the same age as my daughter. Potty training is about to happen, even though most our friends babys of the same age are already potty trained. Have you noticed since being a parent the parent to parent competition, like "my dog is better than your dog". I know its human nature and it makes me laugh honestly as I am trying to just stay focused on my child and not what the Jones's child has accomplished. Another major downfall and annoyance of Facebook is all the damn baby posts. If anything needs to remain private, its the innocent little babies that have no say in the matter.
I'm with you on not wanting to wait to find out the sex of your baby. That was never even a question for us. We definitely weren't going to paint the baby bedroom yellow! I don't see how people can wait.
My boy will be two in a couple of weeks, and is no where close to being potty trained. I don't even want to think about it!
I feel you on the competition thing. It's ridiculous. The girl across the street ran up to us with her three-year old the other day, asked how old our son was, then announced that her daughter attended the International School and could speak three languages, then walked away. Why do I care? I'm not going around bragging that my kid knows the distinction between 40 species of sharks, so why do I have to be subjected to it? It's all Facebook's fault! Poor babies!
I held out until earlier this year to even sign up for Facebook after I caught myself snooping on my wife's FB constantly and now I am on it everyday that I have access to the internet. (which is everyday, except when I go camping out in the woods)I still have many friends that aren't on facebook and now I kind of wish I was one of them. Oh well, as long as I'm happy and my kids are healthy I'll keep plugging along.
Other than that, I'm a pretty negative person when it comes to society as a whole, believe it or not. Not that that is a good thing, but the truth is ugly and I'm not scared to admit my version of the truth which I think is more accurate than the average Joe's version of the truth.